Don’t think about it or read about it or take friends’ advice or the advice of random assholes on the Internet (me included). Do something (anything!) that you think might make you happy. Take action—literally any action—then reflect on whether that made you feel better or worse, then repeat.
Plans, programs, therapists, tips are all good, but even better is You. Your situation, your body, your needs, desires, habits. No one knows that better than you and your body.
Plan -> motivation -> action sucks, especially for an already burnt out mind and body. You can have the BEST plan and the BEST motivation, but your mind and body won’t be fooled—or at least not for long—and they (you) will let you down. Then your mind and brain will feel shitty because obviously THEY (YOU!) are to blame, because this was THE PERFECT PLAN because 1,000 people said it worked for them, complete with testimonials and pictures!
Action -> celebration -> reflection -> repeat is better because you don’t need motivation or a plan to get started. Just do it/something/anything! Way to go, killer!! How do you feel?! Do you want to do that again? Great! Next action is…
Your first action might be buying a party-sized bag of Doritos, a pint of ice cream, and a box of wine, and staying up until 4 AM rewatching Game of Thrones season 1. Or your first action might be getting up at 5 AM for a 30 minute run. Or taking an afternoon siesta. Or buying a pair of roller skates or asking a friend to play tennis with you after work or asking to take a neighbor’s dog to the dog park or taking the stairs at work or parking in the farthest available parking spot or signing up for a charity 5k…. Each of these things has probably worked for 10k people and not worked for 50k. What will work for you? I don’t know and no one here does either. And neither do YOU right now, because if you did, you wouldn’t be asking the Internet for help! But if you try something that sounds awesome and are honest with yourself about how it went and are willing to try it or something else again, you’ll get there in time.
Plans, programs, therapists, tips are all good, but even better is You. Your situation, your body, your needs, desires, habits. No one knows that better than you and your body.
Plan -> motivation -> action sucks, especially for an already burnt out mind and body. You can have the BEST plan and the BEST motivation, but your mind and body won’t be fooled—or at least not for long—and they (you) will let you down. Then your mind and brain will feel shitty because obviously THEY (YOU!) are to blame, because this was THE PERFECT PLAN because 1,000 people said it worked for them, complete with testimonials and pictures!
Action -> celebration -> reflection -> repeat is better because you don’t need motivation or a plan to get started. Just do it/something/anything! Way to go, killer!! How do you feel?! Do you want to do that again? Great! Next action is…
Your first action might be buying a party-sized bag of Doritos, a pint of ice cream, and a box of wine, and staying up until 4 AM rewatching Game of Thrones season 1. Or your first action might be getting up at 5 AM for a 30 minute run. Or taking an afternoon siesta. Or buying a pair of roller skates or asking a friend to play tennis with you after work or asking to take a neighbor’s dog to the dog park or taking the stairs at work or parking in the farthest available parking spot or signing up for a charity 5k…. Each of these things has probably worked for 10k people and not worked for 50k. What will work for you? I don’t know and no one here does either. And neither do YOU right now, because if you did, you wouldn’t be asking the Internet for help! But if you try something that sounds awesome and are honest with yourself about how it went and are willing to try it or something else again, you’ll get there in time.