having kids is no longer an imperative for humans living in the 21st century
on the contrary. global population growth will plateau in a few decades, and negative population growth is already a problem in many countries, like all western countries, south korea, and also china.
It’s a trend and it’s slowing down not plummeting. And even if it is, there are already more of us than we know how to sustain.
The problem at hand is not growth rate slowing down, it’s humans divided in tiny pockets of countries burning through what little we have left of natural resources.
People who have kids today, do so knowing that their children will most certainly be displaced by natural disasters.
there are already more of us than we know how to sustain
what is the evidence for that? if that were true then we would have lot's of people going hungry, but that's simply not the case. poverty is getting reduced world wide. if we could not sustain the current population, we should have lots of people dying from hunger and the population should stop growing. but the reason why population is growing especially in africa is exactly because the growth is still sustainable. if it wasn't, then it could not be growing.
In 100 years, "us" is going to be Elon Musk's grandchildren, people from Niger, etc. and none of them are going to think like you whether they have to move or not.
no, it's more like asking a junior dev to write the sorting algorithm instead of writing it yourself. using a library would be like using an already verified and proven one algorithm. that's not what AI code provides.
there would not be any issue with anonymous reports if CPS would look for actual evidence before doing anything else, and reject any anonymous report as baseless if no evidence is found. innocent until proven guilty must hold here too.
you are not married, are you? that's not how this works. while they certainly need to talk, and not just once, but continuously, you don't have the authority to change your partners behavior. you need to discuss your feelings about this matter and come to a consensus about the activities and the goals for your child.
it won't be easy. if i were in this position, i can't imagine what i would do. i feel even stronger than GP about this, and i'd probably feel quite helpless trying to get my partner to understand how i feel about this. even just trying to get my voice heard. if you don't have a way to communicate openly in your marriage from the start, then talking about things openly can be very hard, seemingly impossible even. with one issue that my wife and me had, it first took me years to notice and understand the issue and start to speak up about it, then it took a few more years for my wife to recognize and acknowledge the issue for herself, and then she still struggled to do something about it. and very time i messed up somewhere in our relationship, it was a setback for her development too. and i can't even blame her. it's something she learned from her parents (which is how she eventually figured it out)
Wrong. I can tell you from 15 years of married experience, that it's more complicated than that. Some of the patterns that are put in place are feedback loops, and when you change your own behavior, it fixes by itself. No need to talk, just do something different. In fact, talking sometimes makes things worse, because now this background thing becomes a first class issue.
One thing I have observed over and over again, is that when I lack assertiveness, because I am tired or something, then she feels like she needs to take over. And she does it very well. But it also creates a lot of anxiety in her.
What I am saying to OP, is that it's time to be more assertive. (1) There is more at play than the couple here; you can't just watch your children getting wrecked and do nothing. And (2), taking some ownership might actually fix the underlying issue.
ok, hat's a good observation. but it depends on the personalities involved and the specific actions. for me personally for example talking about an issue IS my way of being assertive.
of course there are situations where simply taking responsibility for something can help, but i don't see that in the situation described. if my wife is scheduling to many activities for the children, how can i take over when i simply want there to be less activities.
in other words if my wife does something that in my opinion simply should not be done, how can i stop her, other than sharing my feelings about it? how can i take ownership of the kids activities other than replacing them with other activities. or what do i do when i am at work while this happens? and working until 2am at night? how am i supposed to react other than saying, please don't do that?
We don't know enough about OP's situation, so we're both projecting quite a bit.
Of course communication is important, and the first thing I would do is talk about the shared expectations we had for the children's schedule. Maybe she didn't understand or remember. Or maybe something on her side changed. Take the calendar, mark explicit downtime hours, and talk about how those should be treated.
If that doesn't work, then it's tough. It might be some deeper patterns in the couple that needs to be broken down and restored. Or a psychological issue on her side. That's where the change of behavior can be useful. It's still communication, on the non-verbal level.
Anyways, I hope OP does something and doesn't just let things fly by.
well i’ll also point out, as a married man, my partner doesn’t have the “authority” to unilaterally decide how our child is raised. Notice the word OUR. There is no “I” in the word our.
It’s a joint decision. If it’s not, then you’re not operating as a team. If you’re not operating as a team…then you have a marriage problem IMO. Simple as that.
The healthy marriage outcome would be talking about it and compromising in some fashion. “my way or the highway”…yikes.
yup, the worst performance i did on any job was due to the complete unavailability of a manager when i was a team of one. and then that manager would not even fire me. i had to quit to get out of there.
just a nitpick, shouldn't youtube also be "yes, but not really", since there are plenty of alternatives to hosting video. but none have the reach that youtube has, similar to ads?
I would name PeerTube the project and the various PeerTube instances various organizations are running (like for example https://vhsky.cz/) as a good Youtube alternative.
Sure, you might not have all the media on one big convenient pile like on Youtube, but that is kinda the point (with no single pile owner there is no single entity that decideds what goes on the pile or not).
This can only be a fair alternative if a single search can transparently query all instances (an implicit requirement for most users), and there's also an easy, instance-transparent, preferably free way to upload content (requirement for most creators). Once one has the question "which instance should I search/create my account on?", it will be considered a failure.
the places i lived in germany and china did have district wide heaters, but only for the water that circulated the heaters, not the water that came out of the tap. i believe the reason being that tap water needs to be potable (at least in germany, in china you still need to at least boil the tap water), whereas water for heating doesn't. you don't actually want your tap water go through the heating system. fun story: in china i once managed to open the heating pipe. the water that came out of that was black. probably rust and other stuff from the pipes. i wonder how the soviets managed to keep the water clean.
They did it this way: from the powerplant, it was hot steam under pressure, not even water, that got to the block-sized heat exchanger (serving maybe 500-1000 people, 200-300 flats - one large soviet-style block or 2-3 smaller ones). There, heat exchanger warmed the technical (indeed totally non-potable, almost poisonous, and constantly circulating) water for the heaters, that was only there during the heating season, and separately, tap water, these were two completely different, non-mixing circuits (and both of them short without much insulation - maybe around 100 meters each way outside, plus within the buildings). And sure the tap water wasn't potable, but it had nothing to do with the way it was heated - there were two completely different circuits for hot and cold water anyway, cold water never entered the heat exchanger building. It was always a separate building by the way, i think because a potential accident with high pressure steam could kill a lot of people if it happened right within the residential building itself.
We were told that hot tap water was totally dangerous to drink and no one tried to. Cold water was unsafe to drink but some people either had reverse osmosis filters, which i know aren't good because they deprive water of a lot of useful stuff too, but no one knew it back then, or they boiled it, but most just drank it as it was. Shorter lifespans and much lower average age, and plenty of other life dangers like mass alcoholism, made water quality was a lot less important than it is today in the West - it won't be water that kills you anyway, it's vodka, lifestyle, of the Party itself.
on the contrary. global population growth will plateau in a few decades, and negative population growth is already a problem in many countries, like all western countries, south korea, and also china.