Play dates are not just for the child. They can be a vital social activities for the parent(s), or a chance for the "visiting" parent to leave their child somewhere safe (and free) and have some time out.
Adjusting a play date is very common. Like everything to do with parenting (at the age where play dates are common), flexibility is key. Everything from timing "We will be 20 minutes late, Jane is still napping" the environment "Thanks for inviting baby Thom also, can you try to keep him on a blanket as he is allergic to grass".
No parent will begrudge a reasonable change, as the expectation is that these are reciprocal. If you host a play date, you expect to attend one - with any changes needed to accommodate your child being taken into account.
It's much more likely to be the other parents discomfort and awkwardness around the out-of-ordinary care needs of the disabled child.
Adjusting a play date is very common. Like everything to do with parenting (at the age where play dates are common), flexibility is key. Everything from timing "We will be 20 minutes late, Jane is still napping" the environment "Thanks for inviting baby Thom also, can you try to keep him on a blanket as he is allergic to grass".
No parent will begrudge a reasonable change, as the expectation is that these are reciprocal. If you host a play date, you expect to attend one - with any changes needed to accommodate your child being taken into account.
It's much more likely to be the other parents discomfort and awkwardness around the out-of-ordinary care needs of the disabled child.