Using any of these passages as a prooftext for a particular position about the effects of God's wrath and drawing a singular conclusion from them is indeed incorrect, but it does not mean that there is a real contradiction. For example take these two passages.
Proverbs 26:4 (ESV)
"Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself."
Proverbs 26:5 (ESV)
"Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes."
They are "contradictory" but yet right next to each other. It can rather be taken that these are both true in certain contexts and must be held in tension against one another and applied with wisdom.
There are multiple instances of this in the old and new testaments.
Proverbs 26:4 (ESV) "Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you be like him yourself." Proverbs 26:5 (ESV) "Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes."
They are "contradictory" but yet right next to each other. It can rather be taken that these are both true in certain contexts and must be held in tension against one another and applied with wisdom.
There are multiple instances of this in the old and new testaments.