You are cherry-picking my words. My Asian wife proves I'm not a racist, period. White racists are pretty much exclusively hateful towards anyone who isn't white. Neo-Nazis, KKK, if you're not a "certain kind" of European, they don't like you. But you know that, and you are reaching. I have a former coworker with the surname "Dhillon", whose ancestry is Punjabi. Maybe you are south Asian, or maybe I'm completely fucking wrong in my assumption. You're not black, and as you said you grew up in a mostly white area. You are no more an authority than I am on any of this. The only difference is that due to the demographics of the particular region of the country I was raised in, most of my friends, neighbors, and schoolmates were native born African Americans. The notion that, because of the color of my skin, I have no right to comment on what I saw and extrapolate it refutes logic. Does this mean that you, as a non-white person who lived in a predominantly white, rural area, are immediately disqualified from commenting on the odd habits of the whites (you labelled them hostile to non-whites) in your neighborhood? Doesn't this mean you are doing the same thing that I did?
No you're not disqualified to comment because you're white. You're not particularly entitled to comment is my point, except in a "I have a mouth and it's my right to use it" sense, and your words do not seem especially imbued with any kind of understanding that you might have gained from your circumstances.
I mean, just the fact that you're bringing out nazis and the klan as your examples of most white racists is absurd. The white racists who are the problem aren't the people who go out of their way to how everyone how much they subscribe to theories of white supremacy. Between those people and, say, Rush Limbaugh listeners or people in favor of starkly discriminatory voter laws, the latter are much more of a threat to daily life. And those people don't think they're racists, because they believe racists have hoods and swastikas.
Jesus it's not cherry-picking at all -- there's a reason why "I can't be racist, my best friend is black" is a joke/gag/dead giveaway of racist attitudes. You should try hard to understand why that is. Presenting the Asian-ness of your wife as if it immunizes you from being racist, or proves you aren't now and can't ever be, is classic tokenization.
Maybe this is a new idea for you, but some white guys marry Asian women because they're racists. They project their weird stereotypes/fetishes into an entire race of women. Cross-race affinity, still racist. Not saying that's you, just saying racist behavior is more than "I don't like those people."
Another thought for you -- people can and often are more racist towards some groups than to others.
